Your own range
Age Gap Dating: Choose the Ages You Want to Meet
Set the ages you like and say what you want.
Your rules
Age Is a Setting, Not a Statement
Adults get to choose who they date. On Naughty Seniors the age range is one of your own settings.
You decide the ages of the people you want to see, and your age range is one of the things the daily suggestions are built from. Whether you are an older man who enjoys younger company, an older woman who prefers a younger man, or someone who likes a decade or two either way, you can say so plainly in your profile.
Members can also add Age Gap to their profile as one of their interests. The site is for adults only, and the minimum age is 18 or the age of majority where you live, whichever is higher. Everyone who joins accepts the site’s terms, which rule out harassment, stalking and impersonation.
Habits worth having
Four Habits for Dating Across an Age Gap
Be honest about your age
Give an accurate age and use a recent photo, so your date recognises you on the day.
Talk about what you both want
Spell out whether you want a single evening, something that carries on or simply a flirt, then ask the other person the same question.
Mention the practical things
Say what your week looks like: energy, health, work and family time. Ask the other person the same, early and kindly.
Keep an eye on money talk
If someone younger or older asks for money, gifts or help with a bill, stop and read the guide to dating scams. A request for cash is a warning sign at any age.
The usual picture
How Big Is the Usual Age Gap?
Among male-female couples in the US and Britain, the typical gap is two or three years, which is a good reason to be open about a bigger one.
- 2.2years apart on average in US opposite-sex married couples living together, 2022 (Pew analysis of the American Community Survey)
- 51%of US opposite-sex married couples living together were within two years of each other in age, 2022 (Pew)
- 3years: the median gap for cohabiting male-female couples in the US, 2023 (Bowling Green State University family profile of American Community Survey data)
- 2years: the median age difference in new heterosexual partnerships in Britain, the man typically the older partner, ages 16 to 63 (Natsal surveys of 2000 and 2010, analysed in a 2018 paper)
These figures cannot say what makes a good date, and the British figure rests on surveys from 2000 and 2010, so it is older than the US figures. In these figures from the US and Britain, a couple of years is the middle of the picture. A bigger gap deserves a mention early on, whatever the numbers.
Common worries
What People Ask Themselves First
A few honest answers before you message anyone.
“Will people judge me?”
That depends on who you tell, and that part is up to you. On the site, age is a setting you control: you choose the ages you see, and you decide who hears about a date.
“What if the gap is large?”
Take it at your own pace and apply the habits that suit any first meet: pick a public place, let a friend know the plan and arrange your own way home, as the meeting guide sets out. Either of you can say no at any point, and a good date respects that.
“How do I start the conversation?”
Open with something from their profile. The senior chat page and the profile tips have more on first messages.
Age Gap Questions
Can I set the age range of the people I see?
Yes. Your age range is one of the signals behind the daily suggestions, alongside distance and the kind of meeting each person wants. Set it to the ages you want to see.
Is there an Age Gap tag on profiles?
Yes. Age Gap is one of the interests members can add to their profile. Use it alongside a clear photo and a sentence about what you want.
Who can join Naughty Seniors?
Adults only: you need to be at least 18, or the age of majority where you live if that is higher. After that, the age range you see is yours to set.
How do I stay safe meeting someone of a different age?
Treat it like any first meet. The meeting guide covers the routine: somewhere public, someone who knows your plan and your own way home. Never send money to anyone you have not met, whatever their age or story.